Happy Children
Dating after divorce is a question most divorcees ask and, the answer will
vary based on who’s giving the answer. This is part 2, of this series. If you
look around at what is happening in the world today, divorce has become such a
common event that the answer to this question is a must. I believe the answer to
this question depends on many factors such as your emotional state, whether you
have children, the age of the children, your religious beliefs, your
socio-economic situation or timing. Many people struggle trying to figure this
out. It is indeed an individual thing. I’m going to tell you what my thoughts
are, and perhaps what others think as well. This article will address dating
when children are involved.
Let’s talk about this based on whether you have children and also in relations to the age of the children. Additionally, the emotional state of the children must be taken into consideration. The impact of the divorce on your children can be more devastating for them, than it was for you. Now multiply that times the number of children you have, to truly grasp the magnitude of what has to be considered before dating. Please know that the length of time will vary with each child. Again, working with your child through their feelings, is so important and has to be addressed. Their emotional stability depends on it!
Helping them to feel good about themselves and building their inner strengths will always be a step in the right direction. Additionally, insuring your children that your date is not a replacement for their father or mother. Continuing to be engaged in their individual “activities of daily living” is imperative. In other words, continue parenting and meeting their emotional, physical, spiritual needs.
When you meet someone, get to know this person before introducing them to your children. Let them get to know your friends and family first, I believe. Likewise, as time progress, get to know their friends and family. I say this because, often times we see people in one light and others see them totally different. They may see character traits that you may not see.
Dating after divorce may take some time for some people and for others, it may be more quickly. Know that there is no rush! Keeping your eyes and ears open to things that may indicate this person is not willing to connect with you as a parent. That means having a care and nurturing attitude when it comes to your children. Additionally, there has to be a balance in the expression of this nurturing and caring. Again I say, keep your ears and eyes open. Not only do animal possess instinct, human do also. Tune into them and use them! Another question would be, whether or not this person have children that lives with them? Finally, if this date show signs of not wanting to accept the whole package of you as mother or father, then you need to “immediately move on.” As they say, there are more fishes in the sea. This my not be the right time. Follow your heart.
As you can gather from the discussions above, there are many factors that should be taken into consideration before you begin dating when you have children.
Stay tuned for Part 3 to know when it is appropriate to date after divorce.
Emma S. Grant
I created this blog with a new company to keep you informed and to provide opportunity for financial growth. There is no secret to this because The Secret is Out Check this out!!
Please leave your comments here or below websites.
emmasgrant.com
Let’s talk about this based on whether you have children and also in relations to the age of the children. Additionally, the emotional state of the children must be taken into consideration. The impact of the divorce on your children can be more devastating for them, than it was for you. Now multiply that times the number of children you have, to truly grasp the magnitude of what has to be considered before dating. Please know that the length of time will vary with each child. Again, working with your child through their feelings, is so important and has to be addressed. Their emotional stability depends on it!
Helping them to feel good about themselves and building their inner strengths will always be a step in the right direction. Additionally, insuring your children that your date is not a replacement for their father or mother. Continuing to be engaged in their individual “activities of daily living” is imperative. In other words, continue parenting and meeting their emotional, physical, spiritual needs.
When you meet someone, get to know this person before introducing them to your children. Let them get to know your friends and family first, I believe. Likewise, as time progress, get to know their friends and family. I say this because, often times we see people in one light and others see them totally different. They may see character traits that you may not see.
Dating after divorce may take some time for some people and for others, it may be more quickly. Know that there is no rush! Keeping your eyes and ears open to things that may indicate this person is not willing to connect with you as a parent. That means having a care and nurturing attitude when it comes to your children. Additionally, there has to be a balance in the expression of this nurturing and caring. Again I say, keep your ears and eyes open. Not only do animal possess instinct, human do also. Tune into them and use them! Another question would be, whether or not this person have children that lives with them? Finally, if this date show signs of not wanting to accept the whole package of you as mother or father, then you need to “immediately move on.” As they say, there are more fishes in the sea. This my not be the right time. Follow your heart.
As you can gather from the discussions above, there are many factors that should be taken into consideration before you begin dating when you have children.
Stay tuned for Part 3 to know when it is appropriate to date after divorce.
Emma S. Grant
I created this blog with a new company to keep you informed and to provide opportunity for financial growth. There is no secret to this because The Secret is Out Check this out!!
Please leave your comments here or below websites.
emmasgrant.com
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